Motherhood and parenting are one of the hardest things one can set out to do, but it is also the most rewarding. I wish each child came with a manual and a navigation set but they don’t. I have come to the realization that God has trusted me with these little ones and so therefore He will give me all the tools needed to take care of them the best way that I can. Today I wanted to share a few things that I have learned over the past 7 years of being a mom. I feel like I have SO much more to learn but I figure I can share lessons I have walked through along the way.
Listen & Be Fully Present: Children are so smart and can totally tell whether or not you are fully paying attention to them. When I listen with my eyes and my heart it shows that I am saying that they are more important than anything else that is happening at that moment. With social media, work and life’s distractions this has become one of the hardest things for me to do. Daily I am working on being present and in the moment as well as listening to them when they speak with my eyes, instead of always multitasking. I am realizing that this time I have with them is actually brief and this attention they want from me now, will not last forever.
Celebrate Differences: As you can imagine, each child in a family is different. Everyone is born with different set strengths and personalities. Each of my children are completely different. One of them is a lot like me, another is a lot like Ben and the baby seems to be a mix of the both of us. With that comes this urge to want to make those not like you, like you and that never ever works. Ben and I have learned to celebrate each child in their differences. Their passions, likes and dislikes, their taste for food and fashion etc. We have found ways to be excited for them and celebrate what they love even if the rest of the family doesn’t care for it. We stress the reality of uniqueness and familial diversity as opposed to comparison. This is a huge one for us. Our world is good at wanting to place people in boxes! The idea of freedom in personality is everything to us.
Don’t Be Afraid To Share Your Journey +Communicate: Recently Ben and I have taken on a new health endeavor as a couple. We are dying to shed a few extra pounds and just feel good again. Ben turns 30 this year and I turn 32. I feel like my metabolism has fully slowed down!! LOL. Any-Whoo… The day before we started our new eating plan we sat down with the kids and shared what we were doing and why. As a result they have been asking us about it, making healthier choices and keeping us accountable. We have also found that communicating with them what we are doing, what the plan is for the day and for the week, ahead of time has provided a sense of awareness and safety for the kiddos. I am seeing more and more the importance and power of communication with little ones. They are way more aware, sensitive and intelligent than we give them credit for.
I know there is SO much more to walk through, understand and grow in but this is just a little glimpse of my journey. Side note: The girls and I did a recent collaboration with Skechers. We are wearing some of their latest releases and they are so comfy and cute!! Perfect for park dates and errands! You can check out more, here!
Thank you so much as always, for stopping by and reading. Much love,