Coffee Date Vol.11: Positive Self-Talk

There is so much power in what we say about ourselves and what we speak to ourselves. I love the scripture that says "Words can bring death or life! Talk too much, and you will eat everything you say." Proverbs 18:21

 

There is so much power in what we say about ourselves and what we speak to ourselves. I love the scripture that says "Words can bring death or life! Talk too much, and you will eat everything you say." Proverbs 18:21

There is so much power in what we say about ourselves and what we speak to ourselves. I love the scripture that says "Words can bring death or life! Talk too much, and you will eat everything you say." Proverbs 18:21

There is so much power in what we say about ourselves and what we speak to ourselves. I love the scripture that says "Words can bring death or life! Talk too much, and you will eat everything you say." Proverbs 18:21

There is so much power in what we say about ourselves and what we speak to ourselves. I love the scripture that says "Words can bring death or life! Talk too much, and you will eat everything you say." Proverbs 18:21

There is so much power in what we say about ourselves and what we speak to ourselves. I love the scripture that says "Words can bring death or life! Talk too much, and you will eat everything you say." Proverbs 18:21

Cardigan + Dress By Soel Boutique // Sneakers By Skechers // Sunnies By Karen Walker // Cross Body Bag By Target

Positive Self Talk

This topic is something I have been stewing on for the past few weeks.  A lot of it stems from stuff I am personally/inwardly dealing with. I feel like sometimes it is hard to formulate words around emotions and struggles. I am however realizing how powerful and life altering the words we speak truly are.  There is that saying “Words Create Worlds.”  I believe this whole heartedly.

I have spent the past 5-6 years complaining about my appearance.  I have been focusing on the fact that I have gained 30-40 pounds due to a series of circumstances (more to come on this in the next few weeks), a lot of it being shock and the other part wanting immediate change and results. The sad part is that when I was “smaller” I still was not happy and spoke negatively about myself. I decided this year to shift how I speak about myself and my weight.  Instead of saying “I’ve gotten so fat.” or “I wish I was as small as you.”  I am saying things like “This is my year.”  For me, my negative self talk has been focused on physical appearance, but we all struggle with something we don’t like about ourselves.  I have been recently challenged to ask myself these questions, “What am I saying to myself” and “What am I saying about myself.” What we say matters.  I am reminded of the scripture that says “Words can bring death or life! Talk too much, and you will eat everything you say.” Prov. 18:21 Of course what we say is an overflow of what is in our hearts and in our minds… I have been digging deep to find ways to shift thoughts and check my heart.

This is my year.  If there is something in your life, that you can change, that you don’t like, then you have the power to do something about it and should.  There are changes I am currently making that will shift the way I see myself and the way I think. In the meantime it is SO important to speak life and not death but also check myself constantly about what I am thinking.  Sometimes we also have to speak things that are not as though they were, in order to build up our faith to believe for change. Put signs up, write it down on paper, do whatever it takes to create a world around you that is positive, starting with the words you speak and read over yourself.  What we believe and say we become.  We can do better and be better. Lets start together, today.

All Photos By: Mae Batista

  • Comments ( 49 )

  • avatar
    BlaIre

    I majorly needed this! I’m about to take midterms so encouragement is very needed in the season hahaha and also applies to all areas of life (let’s be real). Thank you for sharing this! I’m a huge believer in positive self talk! Also that outfit is FAB YAS!!!! I need those star shoes 🤩🤩🤩

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    Torey Noora

    This is a perfect spring outfit and totally my style. Shopping it now!

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    MARETTE fLORA

    Omg YOUR OUTFIT AND SHOES ARE ADORABLE! aLSO, THIS IS A GREAT REMINDER THAT WE NEED TO WATCH HOW WE TALK TO OURSELVES!

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    Cathy

    Yes! Positive talk is what gets us through our days. You are beautiful and intelligent, don’t tell yourself otherwise!! I need to do this too, I am down on myself right now because of my weight, but I need to tell myself it’s OK, and to take it all in stride.

    Keep on being positive!!

    XOXO
    Cathy

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    Jasmine Vargas

    Absolutely loving this outfit. perfect for spring.

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    Oh to Be a Muse

    Totally love your positivity and your message here. And I’m also a big fan of those star sneakers. Super cute.

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    Stephanie Whitman

    I so respect your vulnerability in this post! I think it’s wonderful how you are changing the narrative in your head to positive self-talk! I’m excited for you and all the good that is to come this year!

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    Tara pittman

    I was always hard on myself with looks. Having kids helped me to shift away from that as they make me realize it is not important.

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    Gladys parker

    Beautiful words! I have decided 2018 is my year also. Instead of being a fat cow I am going to be under 300 by my spring Doctors appointment. Instead of being in a hopeless situation I am going to change it ever so slightly each quarter. I have lived 54 years of negativity and I’m over it. Thanks for the encouragement and words of wisdom. This WILL be your year!!!

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    Beth

    Positive self talk is probably the single most important this that guarantees our success in life! Fabulous observation. love your outfit – I want it now it’s so cute!!

    Beth || http://www.TheStyleBouquet.com

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    Annette Dattilo

    Such a great post. Words really are so powerful. What we speak and continue to speak will speak life into those words. I was recently talking to a friend about this very thing. My husband and I are really trying to figure out how to take a trip for our 20th anniversary, but baby sitters aren’t looking to promising. My friend told me to start talking as we are going on and believing it will come true. So that’s what I’m going to do. 🙂
    I love your casual comfy outfit. xo

  • avatar
    Sarah Bailey

    How you talk to yourself really can have a big effect on yourself. Trying to say things to yourself that are positive and uplifting can help change your mood incredibly.

  • avatar
    summer

    This is so important and I’m so glad you covered this, Ruthie! Positive self-talk is something we all need to pick up and put into practice daily. It’s not easy but it’s essential!

  • avatar
    Sonal

    I loved your aRticle and you look amazing! That color and style …you are Carrying them so well! Elegant! Yes more yayyy to POSITIVE self talk!

  • avatar
    Kristi ann

    I truly believe that words create worlds also. thank you for sharing this, more people really need to know about this!

  • avatar
    Layan

    “words create worlds” thats beautiful, Ive really been into positive thinking lately and i agree that it changes so many aspects of your life. thank you for sharing

  • avatar
    Erica @ Coming Up Roses

    “Do whatever it takes to create a world around you that is positive.” A-friggin-men sistah. Say it again for the folks in the back!

  • avatar
    Christina Polovich

    CONFIDENCE and loving yourself really boost moral. Seeing that you overcome negativity in your life inspires me to be a better person of myself as well. And FYI, I’m so loving your outfit!

  • avatar
    Ericka

    Positive talk is so important as it motivates to be better in anything that we do in life. Always remember you are beautiful and you can do anything you set your mind to.

  • avatar
    Jennifer L

    IT really is so essential for us to boost ourselves up and to create an inner and outter positive environment. We should always be our #1 cheerleader and supporter.

  • avatar
    maria magdalena

    oh, i like your cardigan…i do agree with postive talk, it’s good to build our confidence

  • avatar
    Geraline Batarra

    This is a great post.I love this. It shows how we are being formed in our daily living.

  • avatar
    Indya | The Small Adventurer

    I haven’t heard the saying “words create worlds” before, but it’s so true! It really makes you think about the things you say and put out into the universe, too.

    Indya || The Small Adventurer

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    Mommy Rockin’ In Style

    DEAR, YOU DEFINITELY NAILED YOUR OUTFIT. AND THAT SHOES, SO GORGEOUS! I AGREE THAT IF YOU WANT SOMETHING TO HAPPEN, YOU AND ONLY YOU CAN MAKE IT POSSIBLE. GOODLUCK DEAR!

  • avatar
    Lacey

    Girl you are STUNNING!!! and yes 100% to that quote! The way we talk to ourselves does create our reality!

    xx,

    Lacey
    theglittergospelblog.com

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    Courtney

    I love this so much! I think we are our own worst critics a majority of the time. I love that you’re spreading positivity on your blog and inspiring women to love themselves. It’s so true what you said about our words create our worlds. I love that statement so much, it’s so simple, but so important.

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    Lauren

    Love this girl!! You are so stunning. Positivity is key.. i’ve had a similar experience recently <3

    Xx,

    Lauren | http://www.lifestylesbylauren.com

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    Carrie | Clean Eating Kitchen

    Love this outfit, casual but effective! Those sneakers are calling my name!

  • avatar
    Lisa

    Swooning over your outfit`! im impatiently waiting for spring to get here! ha!

    XO-Lisa
    http://www.thatssodarling.com

  • avatar
    StephaNie jeannOt

    YUp! the power To have positive changs js in our grasp. I agree. You are beautiful!!!

  • avatar
    Elinor

    I really put myself down sOmetimes and i shouldnT. I love the coloUrs of your outfit. So fresh and spring like.

  • avatar
    Azanique S. Rawl

    I have never thought about how “words becomeworlds”. That is seriously so powerful. I definitely have been in the same boat about my weight and recently realized that even when I was smaller, my life still wasn’t perfect.

  • avatar
    Cindy Gordon

    That look is one of your best, easily. Your message was really great; perfect to have a cup of coffee with!

  • avatar
    Wendy Polisi

    Staying positive is a great way to stay HEALTHY. plus you look fly.

  • avatar
    Irina Rena

    This is the perfect outfit for the upcoming weather. Stay positive girl, you look great!

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    Ashley DTKAustin

    First, you are stunning! Don’t let those rare, low times get you down! You are an amazing person! Second, I need those shoes!

  • avatar
    Ada

    This is a perfect topic! STAYING POSITIVE ABOUT WEIGHT GAIN CAN BE DIFFICULT BUT IF ANYONE CAN DO IT, IT’S YOU 🙂

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    Candy Rachelle

    You are so gorgeous in your outfit and your sneakers. Positivity is the key. Keep going, girl!!

  • avatar
    Athena

    Excellent post with great tips. I learned a long time ago to love me for who i am now – not who I want to be or who i was or what i regret. live in the moment and enjoy every moment.

  • avatar
    Stefanie

    girl, YOU LOOK INCredible! as women its so easy to judge ourselves and be hard on ourselves, but we shouldn’t be! also, i love this outfit so much, i totally want that cardigan and those sunglasses!! xo

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    Tomi

    i’m not sure why but this is writing in all caps haha. love this post though girl!

    xx, tomi
    http://goodtomicha.com

  • avatar
    Becca Wilson

    We are always so much more negative on ourselves than other people are on us. I think you look so fabulous! You are an amazing person inside and out. Never doubt that!

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    Krystel | Disney on a Budget

    I can align with this. I have been losing weight for awhile and its crazy that im still not happy

  • avatar
    CaRissa

    Thank you for the encouragement today! Also, those shoes are so cute!

  • avatar
    Garf

    What a perfect spring outfit. Love those shoes 😉

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    Fan R

    I join you in this positivity journey! Love the message “This is my year”, I need to say it to myself more often!

  • avatar
    Cindy Ingalls

    Negative self talk can really drag you down. I also find that when i’m feeling bad about how I look, I don’t treat my body better. It’s a vicious cycle.

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