Coffee Date Vol. 10: 5 Dream Killers To Watch Out For (Dare To Dream Series)

How is everyone’s week going so far?!! I wanted to take a minute and thank everyone that has been following along with our Dare To Dream series so far.  It has been a really inspiring few weeks! If you missed the past few posts, you can catch Nakeia’s story here and Claudia’s story here.  Both are different but so impactful.  I have been so challenged by both of these women.  I wanted to jump in here this week and share a few of my own little nuggets on dreaming.

Dreams can be big or small, whatever the caliber, they require faith, action, wisdom and strategy.  In wanting to execute your dreams there are a few pitfalls or “dream killers” to watch out for.  The ones that stand out to me the most are: Negativity, Fear, Procrastination, Your Past & Lack Of Support.

Negativity: There’s a scripture in the Bible that says: “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.” In other words, don’t share your precious dreams with people that don’t care and don’t have your best interest at heart.  Being around negativity will literally suck the life out of you.  Limit the negative influences in your life.  Eliminate them if you have to.  Positive vibes only!! It really makes a difference in how you perform.

Fear: When I was getting ready to start this blog 3 years ago, fear gripped me for months leading up to the official launch.  Fear of Failure, fear of what people would think of me, fear in general was all consuming.  I took the leap in January 2015 and I took it scared.  I think fear is a natural part of the process, especially when you are sharing something personal.  Putting a piece of you out there that can be up for people to judge, question and criticize, but move forward anyway.  I think the biggest way to overcome fear is to do what you are afraid of.  Surround yourself with cheerleaders that believe in you and push you to take the leap.

Procrastination: A lot of times we want to wait till everything is just right before we get started on a big project.  Obviously there are key components needed to jumpstart your project, dream or goal but often times you have to work with what you have until you get what you need.  This takes time.  The longer you put off plans and procrastinate, the more apt you are to never get started.  Procrastination cannot be an option while pursing your dreams and goals.  Do one thing everything day that leads you toward that goal even if it is something small, and sometimes that one thing is actually rest.

Your Past: Prior to this blog I had 2 blogs that completely failed.  Lack of direction and experience got the best of me.  When I was getting ready to launch all I could think about was the failure in my past with blogging.  If I had let this define me, I would have never gotten started and experience the future success that this blog would bring.  Don’t let your past define you or paralyze you.  Your past is your past, your future has not yet been written! Anything can happen.

Lack Of Support: I had mentioned this a little earlier, but it is extremely crucial to spend time with people that believe in you, cheer you on and support your endeavors! Find supportive, like-minded individuals that get you and understand what you are going after.  For me, a blogging community is very important.  Its is fuel and encouragement.  Find your tribe and love them hard.  There is nothing like support when pursuing a dream, it isn’t optional for your success.

That’s my two sense for this series!! Thank you as always for reading! Be sure to stop by next week to hear from Angelle of Dashing Darlin’! She is one of my blogger besties! We have been supporting each other from the beginning! Have an amazing week everyone!!

 

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  • Comments ( 48 )

  • avatar
    Danielle

    The perfect post to start out an otherwise UNINSPIRING Monday! Such a great read!

    xx, Danielle | Pineapple & Prosecco

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    Kelssey Layton

    Seriously love this post! I think support is one of the biggest things that can help or hurt you. I am so thankful for the unending support I get from my family, friends and other bloggers! I wouldn’t have stuck around this long without it!

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    Dominique

    This was a fantastic post, and it really hit home. I used to be friends with a couple of the most negative people I had ever met. After a couple of years of them making fun of things I wanted to do, places I wanted to see, and just everything in general, I wrote them both a long letter explaining how I just couldn’t be friends with them anymore. My life got better once I kicked them to the curb.

    Surrounding yourself with like-minded, open people is the best thing you can do…and one of the best ways to learn to. GREAT post!

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    Anna english

    Love starting a new week with this post ruthie!

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    Amanda

    What a great post! Love this inspiration!
    xoxo,
    Amanda | http://www.TheChambrayBunny.com

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    Gladys parker

    I hope you have an amazing week also! I have two goals. Losing weight and making my blog a small SUCCESS. I don’t want to be a Big blogger. I do want to have it correct. Your list of dream killers are definitely in my life. Thanks for the instead of ideas!

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    Rita

    Love the post. It is very inspiring. I agree with all the points you have mentationed. Specially negativity, it is very important to surround your self with positive people.

    Rita | http://www.styleroundtheclock.com

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    Maggie

    What a great way to spend a Monday! I loved reading this!

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    Kendra

    Thank you for this post! I’ve been procrastinating for the longest because of the fear of failure. Now I’m working on staying focused and doing what I need to in order to fulfill my dreams.

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    Drake Conan

    Such a great post to start our day. I love reading it and it is truly an inspiration. looking forward to seeing more of your posts.

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    jessica

    I am trying to be better about procrastination. It is so hard when i have so many things to get done and not enough time to do it… working on it though!
    xo Jessica
    http://www.whatsfordinneresq.com

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    Shira Rosenbluth

    I love this and yes, support is so so important- I think it’s often overlooked but a necessity.

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    Natalia Loren

    I feel like when you go to Church and walk out thinking “Today’s message was directed at me”. . Every point you made here is what I struggle with including the past blog. Thank you so much for these tips x

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    Victoria Heckstall

    I’m so inspired while reading it. you’ve got it really amazing. looking forward to see more inspiring blog from you.

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    Elizabeth O

    GREAT post. I particularly agree that being around negativity will suck the life out of you, that is so true! Your blog is truly inspiring. 🙂

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    Laura Leigh

    Amazing post Ruthie! You are SO right, these are all dream killers and can easily squeeze in. Definitely nee to be on the look out for all of them, often.

    xo Laura Leigh
    http://www.louellareese.com

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    Emily Wilkinson

    Such a great, inspiring post! Needed the reminder!

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    Avani

    This is such a fantastic post

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    Cathy

    Beautiful post. it’s so hard to not look at the past, I struggle with that. This is a great Reminder to try and forget it and move on. Thank you!

    XOXO
    Cathy

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    Lacey

    This is beautiful. I have been in the blogging game for 8 years and there have been many that have come and g0, but there is NOTHING like the support of family and true friends.

    xo
    L
    a Lacey Perspective

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    Heather

    One of the things I most admire about my sister is her positivity. And I’m finding that less woes seem to fall her way. Now I don’t think the universe is sparing her from anything. Just her outlook is so upbeat things don’t seem to be that big of a deal.

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    GiGi Eats

    My PEOPLE screening process is amazing in that I can spot people who suck from miles away! I do not associate myself with them, at all. no thank you! i like positivity!

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    Tara pittman

    I will stop procrastinating. It is time for me to dream.

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    Cindy Gordon

    Nothing is worse than having no support. You need all of the help you can get when it comes to reaching your dreams.

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    Katey

    THis is just what I needed to read today! Focusing on the negative and playing the comparison game will never get me to my goal! Sometimes, it can be so hard to step back and cherish the positive things happening (big or small).

    XOXO
    Katey

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    Heather

    Procrastination and lack of support can be my pitfalls. I really just have to jump in the procrastination will fade away once i’m organized and the suport will come once i show my confidence. i just have to fake it until i make it.

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    crystal carder

    I cannot agree with all of these more! I have had blogs in the past and they failed, but i finally realized i couldnt let them vblogs ruin my dream. these are things every dreamer should read.

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    Rebekah

    I’m definitely guilty of procrastinating and I’m often fearful too. i try not to let fear hold me back, but I have to admit it is difficult!

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    Dogvills

    My biggest obstacle to overcome is procrastination. I need to get that out of my system ASAP. I hate myself when I have to cram to meet deadlines because I slacked off.

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    Sarah Bailey

    Fear holds me back a lot – I find it hard to beat it, perhaps due to my past, perhaps due to my lack of self belief, it is definitely something I need to overcome.

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    Chelley Martinka

    I need to be better about my fears and negativity. I let my head get filled with stupid stuff and hold myself back too often.

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    Ada

    I love this post, Ruthie! Procrastination can be my biggest downfall sometimes.

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    emma white

    i love this blog post its a gentle reminder that I do many of these things, always waiting for the right thime putting things off

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    Emma white

    such an inspiring post! Fear Was Holding me back for years till i finally said enough and faced it, ever since then i face things with a posItive mind!

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    Morgan

    I would say a combo of fear and procrastination are the two I struggle with most! I’m fearful sometimes of the content I created (Will they like it?!) so I procrastinate posting. Catch 22!! Thanks for sharing how to squash these!

    -Morgan
    How 2 Wear It [] http://how2wearit.com

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    Megan

    I’ve been loving tHis series! So inspiring.

    Megan | http://www.pipmegan.com

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    LavandaMichelle

    PROCRASTINATION is SOMETHING i have been struggling with since i could spell my name. I’ve learned that creating a SCHEDULE helps plenty. HONESTLY, i can agree with EVERYTHING you wrote. This was a great post.

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    Joyce Duboise Santos

    This is an incredible list, especially for the new year! I am guilty of falling for all of the above. Thank you for the reminder that we all have work to do!

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    EG III

    I LOVE this!! Dream killers feed on our souls at times and have caused many a talented individual to simply give up or not even try. I’ll definitely be keeping them away from me!

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    Azanique S. Rawl

    I totally deal with these everyday and am working hard to let them go. I struggle most with fear and procrastination.

    -xo, Azanique | http://www.lotsofsass.com

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    Erica D Ardali

    I have procrastination bad!~ i really need to get better at starting things and just seeing things through

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    Yona Williams

    Procrastination is one of my downfalls…I am constantly working on getting better with that aspect of my life. Negativity is one of the worst dream killers – especially when you hold negative thoughts and you don’t have positive reinforcement in regards to your goals.

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    Cat

    I am so thankful that a lack of support was never an issue in our home. I would have to say that self-doubt is something that can often hinder me from pursuing my goals. im still working on that 🙂

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    Khushboo

    I have struggled to follow my dreams and I wish I had this article to encourage and support me back in those days . Thanks for putting together these dream killers and for your encouraging words 🙂

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    Mira

    Number 3 is all me! I’m such a procrastinator! But I agree with all the other points you’ve made as well. Having no support or even worse being surrounded by ‘nay-sayers’ is horrible.

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    blair villanueva

    very inspiring post to read to end this work week. Sometimes we dont have support but ourselves, so we should learn how to manage it, and not listen to negativity.

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    Stephanie // A Sparkle Factor

    Oh my gosh, yesssss to this whole post! Negativity, fear, and procrastination are HUGE HUGE dream killers. For me, the procrastination is a big one. Negativity is major too…. and I couldn’t agree more with not sharing your dreams with people who won’t support you. That’s a tough one, but SO KEY!

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    Keki Cannon

    brutally honest and sincere posts, we need more like this. people are alwasy to scared to share their truths. thanks!

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