The Best Yes

The Best Yes

This year it was a serious goal of mine to read one book per month.  I realized toward the end of 2016 I was not doing enough for myself in the area of growth and self-care, mentally and spiritually.  I felt very drained and depleted, mostly because I was giving out of an “empty cup” so to speak! I have made a conscious effort this year to make reading, learning and growing  an absolute priority.  This is not just for my personal gain but also for my family, close friends and even my lovely readers such as your self.  I met this goal in January and completed The Best Yes by Lysa Terkeurst.

This book was exactly what I needed to start off the year!

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If you are anything like me, wanting to please people, wanting to make everyone happy, don’t want to cause any disappointment or ruffle any feathers, then this book is for you. Lysa goes through the process of decision making and counting the cost of what you decided, so well.  She highlights the fact that the decisions you make today don’t just affect the present but also your future.    I seriously want to read this book again just to make sure that the facts stick with me for a life time.  It was so good and really centered around wisdom.  I found so much freedom in every single chapter.

Here are a few Best Yes nuggets I came away with:

  • Before you say yes, evaluate the following-
* Ability
* Time
* Expectations 
* Are you saying yes in order to please others
* Are your finances being affected negatively
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  *The small “no”:  Don’t delay your “no” if you know your answer is “no!”
A decision is like a beautiful river once your in it, it is hard to change directions.
* Are you a yes girl or a best YES girl?!
* Don’t let the awkward disappointment of others keep us from our best yes with God.
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 Here is an excerpt from the book that I think sums up her writing and wisdom really well:
Learn to find and play the role God wants most for you to play, not the ones you feel pressured into playing for the sake of others or even our sense of accomplishment and worth. Most of us spend a lot of our lives figuring out when to say yes and when to say no. How to manage our time, reduce stress, do our best for our families, find a little space for “me”. But we don’t find space for our souls until we learn to step past the yes and no of daily decisions and seek a third option: the best yes. The best yes is the choice that shapes all our other choices. It’s what allows us to play our necessary parts in God’s plan, to spend our energy and focus our passion on the assignments that really are ours.
How do we learn to say that best yes? It requires honesty. Imagination. Attention. Trust. Humility. Practice – lots of practice. And wisdom. The best yes is really all about wisdom – learning to make truly wise decisions. And that’s the heart of this book. “I want us to become powerfully effective decision makers,” writes Lysa Terkeurst. “Because then we will live powerfully effective lives. And spend our souls doing powerfully effective work to the glory of God.” With her signature mix of transparency, Scripture-laced insight, and “been there” humor, she suggests usable strategies for choosing wisely and encourages us all to shout and whisper our own best yes to life, day by decision-making day.”

Is that not amazing and powerful all at once?! I highly recommend this book!! I am feeling really empowered and more free than ever as I continue to move forward in 2017!

On to this outfit!!! I am stoked to say that this dress is less than 24.00!! It is such a fun tunic and as you know I am crazy about embroidery lately!! I love the collar and neck detail! It is so pretty! I paired this dress with the sweetest blush bag .  The quilt detail is so dainty and I just love a good crossbody any day of the week! These fun shoes from Shoe Dazzle! Shoe Dazzle requires a membership so  I linked similar items that are just as amazing!! I hope you all had a fabulous weekend and have an even better week!!

 

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45 Comments

  1. Alysa Villelli February 20, 2017 / 7:05 am

    I love this whole outfit! The shoes are adorable. Can’t wait til it’s warmer to wear open toes!

  2. Styled Blonde February 20, 2017 / 7:18 am

    Such a steal for a really cute dress! And I need to read this book! I am way to often a yes girl. And not always for myself! I need to give more BEST yes’s! Love this!

  3. Anna English February 20, 2017 / 7:20 am

    I have the hardest time saing YES to a lot, haha! Such a great post Ruthie!

  4. Lauren February 20, 2017 / 7:20 am

    Love this post and the idea of the “yes”. I always say yes even if it doesn’t benefit or help me in the long run and sometimes it actually ends up hurting me. Love this post!
    xx
    Lauren

  5. Alicia February 20, 2017 / 7:33 am

    I love the thoughtfulness behind this post. People pleasing is such a hard habit to break. I also love this look. That shirt dress is so cute!

  6. Bonnie Marrow February 20, 2017 / 7:47 am

    This is our “year of no” but I think Best Yes sounds better! Also LOVE those shoes!

  7. Ashley Carrington February 20, 2017 / 8:26 am

    Love this look! And I loved reading this post, exactly what I needed today!

  8. Angelle Marix February 20, 2017 / 9:23 am

    I love her and going to hear her speak in May!!!! Loved your thoughts and review about this book!!! Can’t wait until you read Uninvited!!! You look gorgeous as always!! I am loving that dress and booties!!

    xoxo,
    Angelle
    http://www.dashingdarlin.com

  9. Lanae Bond February 20, 2017 / 9:23 am

    I know one author stated that it is best to say no and leave it that. If you provide an excuse people are easy to dismiss it or try to force you to change your mind. I love the you outfit and the tips you gave about being a yes person because this is something I am overcoming.

  10. Carmen February 20, 2017 / 10:35 am

    Reading & learning is a priority for me as well. I could certainly do better on the reading front, that’s for sure. I love the embroidery details on your dress. :]

    // itsCarmen.com

  11. Samantha February 20, 2017 / 12:38 pm

    What a gorgeous outfit! You look great!

  12. Erica @ Coming Up Roses February 20, 2017 / 1:49 pm

    I’m with ya on the one-book-per-month goal, Ruthie!! I read The Woman in Cabin 10 in January and have done #GIRLBOSS and The Meaning of Marriage for February. Looks like I need to add the Best Yes to the list for the year, too! That first quote of hers is phenomenal in and of itself.

    Coming Up Roses

  13. Jessica Sheppard February 20, 2017 / 3:49 pm

    The Best Yes sounds like a fab read, love these nuggets and words of wisdom…just sooo good! Sometimes I’m just too concerned about pleasing others! You are killin it in that embroidered tunic…perfect with those adordable booties! Your makeup is flawless, love that lippie! Stunning, friend!

  14. Stephanie Whitman February 20, 2017 / 4:11 pm

    Oh my gosh so now not only have you given me a podcast to listen to a few posts ago, but now a book to read! These are the things that make my heart so full. Thank you for sharing! And babe, you look incredible in that dress! The combo of chambray and embroidery just speaks to me!

    Stephanie // SheSawStyle.com

  15. Jenna Colgrove February 20, 2017 / 6:24 pm

    I can’t decide if I love the dress or the booties more!

  16. Sydney February 20, 2017 / 7:36 pm

    This sounds like a great read and also I love those shoes!!

  17. Courtney February 21, 2017 / 7:04 am

    Yes, people pleasing is a very hard habit to break! It’s when you dig deep and find out what’s best for you, and then the people pleasing doesn’t seem to matter much. It’s definitely a way of re-wiring your brain to think, but the outcome of less pressure is so much better!

    Courtney
    The Dainty Darling

  18. Nataly February 21, 2017 / 7:08 am

    I love the booties and dress so much! xo, Nataly

  19. Heather Denniston February 21, 2017 / 8:30 am

    I love that dress because it is so simple but has a unique flare to it and the shoes are perfect.

  20. Hannah February 21, 2017 / 9:29 am

    The embroidery on that dress is so beautiful! Love this outfit!

  21. Jessie February 21, 2017 / 10:11 am

    You’re slaying in this tunic! I’ll have to check it this book. I’m a recovering people-pleaser, and I’m learning to say no (and not aplogizing or justifying!). It’s hard sometimes. But it helps to think of saying no as giving the best yes to something else! We can’t do it all. W just need to go with God, follow His Spirit, and not feel bad that something isn’t for us. I recently let go of a couple things, and it brought so much peace and freedom.

  22. Ayana Pitterson February 21, 2017 / 10:20 am

    Girl, this outfit is simply ON POINT! I am new to your blog, but you have a new follower. Love the point of this post mostly though. Trying to educate myself and grow while still trying to give to the world is not an easy task, but one that I need to figure out and start to prioritize. Thank you for sharing.

    http://www.thriftingdiva.com

  23. Sophia February 21, 2017 / 10:30 am

    I love the whole outfit and I love your hair.

  24. Laina Turner February 21, 2017 / 11:55 am

    This is such a great look! Totally love it.

  25. Chelsea-Catherine February 21, 2017 / 1:35 pm

    I just went to a Lysa TerKeurst conference this past weekend! Definitely going to read that book!

  26. Lexi Holzberg Kritzer February 21, 2017 / 2:08 pm

    Reading more is one of my new year’s resolutions every year! I feel like it grounds me and teaches me at the same time.

  27. Ashley Zeal February 21, 2017 / 3:07 pm

    Love this post! I used to try and read 100 books a year, but since I started the blog I’ve totaly quit 🙁 need to get back into it!

  28. Sam @ The Haunted Housewife February 21, 2017 / 3:40 pm

    You’re so beautiful. That sounds like a book that I need to read as well. I’m a lot like you, I’m a people pleaser. In some situations, I say yes when I should say no and that needs to change!

  29. Natasha Stoneking February 22, 2017 / 6:35 am

    so glad you posted this… i need to spend time really thinking about my time and how best to spend it!!

  30. Maggie February 22, 2017 / 8:35 am

    I loved this! Thank you so sharing. It is so important to take care of yourself.

  31. Raine February 22, 2017 / 9:13 am

    I love tunics, and that floral embroidery is so gorgeous!

  32. Debbie Savage February 22, 2017 / 9:27 am

    I love your blog so much! I adore you and respect you. I needed to hear everything you said. What I prefer more – would be an actual heart to heart in person! Thank you! I love your tunic dress too!
    xo Debbie | http://www.tothineownstylebetrue.com

  33. Sandy a la Mode February 22, 2017 / 11:13 am

    This is such a cute outfit! I love the detailing on your dress, it’s gorgeous!

  34. Bev February 23, 2017 / 3:20 pm

    I love your outfit. And I now I feel like I need to read this book. I have been struggling with trying to be a people pleaser lately.

  35. Jen Frick February 23, 2017 / 6:42 pm

    I felt like you were speaking to me in this post! I need to get my hands on this book ASAP! Thank you so much for sharing babe!!

    Jen | MrsJenFrick.com

  36. Marylouise February 25, 2017 / 5:24 pm

    Thanks for helping me to see things in a diefnrfet light.

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