3 Things I Have Learned As A Mom: SKECHERS

Motherhood and parenting are one of the hardest things one can set out to do, but it is also the most rewarding.  I wish each child came with a manual and a navigation set but they don’t.  I have come to the realization that God has trusted me with these little ones and so therefore He will give me all the tools needed to take care of them the best way that I can.  Today I wanted to share a few things that I have learned over the past 7 years of being a mom.  I feel like I have SO much more to learn but I figure I can share lessons I have walked through along the way.

Listen & Be Fully Present: Children are so smart and can totally tell whether or not you are fully paying attention to them.  When I listen with my eyes and my heart it shows that I am saying that they are more important than anything else that is happening at that moment.  With social media, work and life’s distractions this has become one of the hardest things for me to do.  Daily I am working on being present and in the moment as well as listening to them when they speak with my eyes, instead of always multitasking.  I am realizing that this time I have with them is actually brief and this attention they want from me now, will not last forever.

Celebrate Differences:  As you can imagine, each child in a family is different.  Everyone is born with different set strengths and personalities.  Each of my children are completely different.  One of them is a lot like me, another is a lot like Ben and the baby seems to be a mix of the both of us.  With that comes this urge to want to make those not like  you, like you and that never ever works.  Ben and I have learned to celebrate each child in their differences.  Their passions, likes and dislikes, their taste for food and fashion etc.  We have found ways to be excited for them and celebrate what they love even if the rest of the family doesn’t care for it.  We stress the reality of uniqueness and familial diversity as opposed to comparison.  This is a huge one for us.  Our world is good at wanting to place people in boxes! The idea of freedom in personality is everything to us.

Don’t Be Afraid To Share Your Journey +Communicate: Recently Ben and I have taken on a new health endeavor as a couple.  We are dying to shed a few extra pounds and just feel good again.  Ben turns 30 this year and I turn 32.  I feel like my metabolism has fully slowed down!! LOL.  Any-Whoo… The day before we started our new eating plan  we sat down with the kids and shared what we were doing and why.  As a result they have been asking us about it, making healthier choices and keeping us accountable.  We have also found that communicating with them what we are doing, what the plan is for the day and for the week, ahead of time has provided a sense of awareness and safety for the kiddos.  I am seeing more and more the importance and power of communication with little ones.  They are way more aware, sensitive and intelligent than we give them credit for.

I know there is SO much more to walk through, understand and grow in but this is just a little glimpse of my journey. Side note: The girls and I did a recent collaboration with Skechers.  We are wearing some of their latest releases and they are so comfy and cute!! Perfect for park dates and errands! You can check out more, here!

Thank you so much as always, for stopping by and reading.  Much love,

Ruthie xo

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  • Comments ( 34 )

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    songbirdechoes

    Ruthie, I loved this post so much. I particularly love the part where you’ve communicated lifestyle changes with your children and they’re sweet enough to check in on you two. #familygoals would be an understatement, especially with those awesome kicks! <3 Have a wonderful Mother's Day.

    Gunjan | http://www.songbirdechoes.com

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    mlaurie24

    You’re so right, children know when we’re really listening to them. They want to feel loved and important and so we need to show them that we really do care about what they’re saying to us. I also agree with you about celebrating differences. I have 2 girls and they are complete opposites. It took me some time to realize that I needed to do things completely different in order to relate to my younger daughter. Great job working on lifestyle changes with the whole family!

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    Michelle Mink

    Sharing your journey and communicating is so important and I love that you mention that. The sketchers shoes are looking great!

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    kage2015

    I have several pair of sketchers shoes and love them. Fun, comfortable and affordable.

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    Tiffany (@unRehearsedTiff)

    A lot of parents expect their kids to be just like them. My daughter and I are similar but she’s an extrovert and I am an introvert. I love her spirit because she is everything I wanted to be, she’s free, bold, loud, intelligent, beautiful! Great tips that many of us parents need to remember.

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    Adaleta Avdić

    Happy Mother’s Day to you! You’re a total babe & I love this post. I don’t own any Sketchers anymore, but I may need to snag a pair at some point 😉 xx adaatude.com

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    Kait Elizabeth

    You are such a beautiful mom! Happy Mother’s Day babe! Hugs, Kait
    http://www.makeminemaroon.com

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    stopdropandvogue

    You are so wise and have such great advice to offer. I am not a mother (yet) but I defintely look up to you in that way. Thanks for this lovely post and I hope you had a great Mother’s Day!
    http://stopdropandvogue.com

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    Nicole Leffew

    Ruthie I loved this post! You are total mom goals to the fullest! You have such a beautiful family! Xo

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    Jaime Cittadino

    Ruthie, I loved this post so much!! You are such an inspiration and superwoman!!!

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    Anna

    Oh my goodness we can always count on our babies to keep us accountable, right?
    My daughter just told my hubby he ate too many cookies!
    XO,
    Anna
    http://www.blushingrosestyle.com

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    britaknee

    So true! Great advice! Love your family shoes!

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    Rachel Moore

    love your post! it is definitely an effort to try and ignore the iPhone when you’re home with the kids all day. i notice a huge difference in my toddler’s behavior if i’m tending to my social media while he’s around. happy mother’s day!!

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    Lauren Bagwell

    Ruthie I truly LOVED this post. Your three tips are so important to children & I know yours are so lucky to have you! My students can always tell when I am not listening and it is so important to accept them as individuals and celebrate their unique qualities. Hope you had a fabulous Mother’s Day!
    xx, Lauren

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    Vet Leow

    This is my favourite brand of walking shoes! I love what you said about celebrating diversity and uniqueness and never start to compare….Thanks Ruthie 🙂

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    Hales

    I hope you had an amazing Mother’s Day? I’m not a mom yet, but I can’t wait to be! I loved reading your advice. You are a rockstar mom 🙂

    Xo, Hales | http://www.sincerelyhales.com

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    UrbanBlonde

    You have such a cute family!! Love the shoes!

    xO – Steph

    http://www.urbanblonde.com

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    Jennifer Frick

    As a mama-to-be (as you know!) this post was SO inspiring and helpful!! I love that you and Ben make it a priority to communicate with your family and it will be something I keep in mind for sure! I know life won’t be perfect so trusting God is something I know I will have to remind myself every single day. Thank you so much for sharing, Ruthie!!

    Jen | MrsJenFrick.com

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    sarah lindner

    Ruthie I love this post! You all look so adorable in your sketchers! I have never worn a pair but I need to try them out
    xoxo http://www.thehouseofsequins.com

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    Morgan

    You are such an amazing mom! Your kiddos are so lucky to have you in their life. I loved reading this blog post, so inspiring to me for whenever I decide to become a mom one day! Thank you for inspiring always!

    XO Morgan
    http://www.styleonedge.net

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    sveeteskapes

    You three look adorable! Such lovely photos, happy mother’s day. Those sneakers look damn comfy and cute.
    xx, Kusum | http://www.sveeteskapes.com

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    Shann Eva

    Such a great post. My kids can totally tell if I’m not paying attention when they talk. It’s definitely something I’m working on. That’s great that you and your husband are working on getting healthy!

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    kasestyles.com

    Ruthie,

    I absolutely loved reading this! I completely agree I can tell when my mom just isn’t listening…hahahaha. It’s easy to get distracted for sure and not realize that you’re only half listening to something that could be really important to that other person.

    My sisters and I are all COMPLETELY different and it’s easy to think that we are different and that’s just the way it is, but CELEBRATING differences is a lot different than just realizing them.

    Sometimes I think parents hide things from their children to ‘protect’ them or they think their kids wouldn’t care, but being transparent can be super beneficial to you and your kids. I never thought about that… Great tips I hope to implement some day 🙂

    I think you are such a great mom. I hope you had a lovely Mother’s day!

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    simplygailg

    This was such a beautiful post Ruthie. As a mom I understand where you’re coming from with the listening part. I feel like I’m always so distracted and I have to find a way to be present for my kids when they need me. It’s definitely a lesson in balance but I’m learning as I go along. A manual would definitely be helpful to teach us how to raise children. Haha. You seem to be headed in the right direction with your children and I commend you for that. I hope your Mother’s Day was beautiful. Xoxo

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    Kim S

    Very heartfelt and such a cute family!

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    Krista Williams

    I am obsessed with this!

    Don’t Be Afraid To Share Your Journey +Communicate: Recently Ben and I have taken on a new health endeavor as a couple. We are dying to shed a few extra pounds and just feel good again. Ben turns 30 this year and I turn 32. I feel like my metabolism has fully slowed down!! LOL. Any-Whoo… The day before we started our new eating plan we sat down with the kids and shared what we were doing and why. As a result they have been asking us about it, making healthier choices and keeping us accountable. We have also found that communicating with them what we are doing, what the plan is for the day and for the week, ahead of time has provided a sense of awareness and safety for the kiddos. I am seeing more and more the importance and power of communication with little ones. They are way more aware, sensitive and intelligent than we give them credit for.

    That is SO SO AMAZING.

    I do feel ya, I feel like now that I’m atmost 30 the metabolism definitely slows and it’s so much harder. It’s really cool that you’re being open and honest with the kids, I LOVE THAT.

    Great great post, always love it.
    xoxo
    Krista
    http://www.hundredblog.com

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    dashingdarlinblog

    Love your thoughts on motherhood. Celebrating their differences has been the biggest positive in our home. It truly is a must. Love your heart and love your family. So beautiful.

    Xoxo,
    Angelle
    http://www.dashingdarlin.com

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    ashley lee

    My kids are toddlers so they are at the age that they want my attention 24/7 & they can tell when I am just giving them a little. Love the shoes! I have not had a pair of Sketchers in YEARS

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    suzanne

    Your kiddos are so adorable! Being fully present is something I’ve learned, and I’ve worked on every day. Love this post, mama.

    http://mykindofsweet.com

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    Heather Johnson

    Ruthie! I love love this post – so inspiring and thoughtful! I love that you started off by saying that God has blessed you with your little ones and therefore you can trust in Him to guide you and give the the right tools! You are one beautiful mama – inside and out! <3
    XX,
    Heather
    http://www.alittlecasual.com

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    thejessicanicol

    I love that you mention how our kids know whether or not we’re truly listening to them. Our three year old loves to tell us stories and if one of us takes out our cell phone she throws a fit, which I actually like. She gives us good reminders that our phones can wait and that communication in a family is so important. Someday she won’t want to tell us these cute stories!

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    Dia All The Things I Do

    I hope you had a wonderful mother’s day. I’m not a mom but I can tell you one thing I think my mom and I had to learn together. We are so similar in behavior but slightly different in beliefs and passion, we had to learn to compromise and to say, “I’m in a bad mood right now, I love you, I’ll talk to you later” one of the best things we can do instead of taking it out on each other.

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    Kathleen

    As a part time nanny, this totally resonated!! This post makes me want to pull my sketchers out!

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    Denay DeGuzman

    Ruth, you are such a fantastic mom! Your kiddos are so lucky to have parents that take the time to nurture them in the way that you and your husband do. Happy children equal a happy family. You deserve all the joy and happiness you are experiencing as a parent. Happy belated Mother’s Day!

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