Our lives have always been pretty crazy! I can’t really recall a “chill” season for Ben and I! We got married after dating for 6 months and a 7 month long engagement. We then got pregnant 2 months after being married with Ava! I have always worked as a nurse with a pretty crazy schedule to try and accommodate our lives as parents. This often meant passing ships for Ben and I. We almost always have someone living with us and renting a room, still do to this day!! It is a full house. On top of that, family comes in from overseas and across the country to stay with us from time to time throughout the year to see us and the babies! All of this we thoroughly enjoy… just painting a little picture!
Recently, Ben has gone back to school which means he is at school 2 solid days per week, working 3 twelve hour shifts and on his 2 days “off” he is on kids and studying! EEEK!!! I wont go in to my schedule because it is just as insane! However, you get the idea! Because of our lives as working parents and having a list of other responsibilities, we have decided that we needed to schedule time to be with each other once per week, even if it is just for 30 minutes. Going on a fancy date isn’t always feasible due to time constraints, babysitting and cost, but we make sure we get alone time where we focus on connecting and catching up with all the little details of each other’s lives once a week.
So far it has worked out to be on Tuesday’s because that is Ben’s day off from school and work. We have found after nearly 9 years of marriage, that communication is the glue that keeps us unified and on the same page. We have different communication styles and needs, but we have learned how to listen and how to talk to one another. We have not mastered our communication, by any means but I feel like we have come a very long way!
I always feel so refreshed, realigned and re-centered after Ben and I talk and navigate through different issues and topics. He has become a strong gauge for what is right and wrong for me with decision making. He is one of the wisest people I know. I have come to rely heavily on him for life advice and direction. Our weekly dates have become a time where we talk through issues, get perspective and come up with strategy for our lives. This is everything to me! I am really thankful for this man.
It is important for Ben and I to show the kids that time alone for mom and dad is imperative for us to be better parents. They miss us when we are not present but have come to understand the importance of date night. I have watched a few couples that are a bit older than us date one another well. They are consistent, protective of their time together and appear joyful and strong in their relationship. I am determined to have a successful marriage for as long as we live, by the grace of God. I believe intentionally making time for one another outside of the chaos of home and work is a huge key to this success. Be on the look out for some date night ideas in the next week or so!!! Thank you as always for stopping by the blog!!
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All photos by Sarah Schweyer