8 Years Of Marriage 

8 Years Of Marriage 

I can’t believe Ben and I have been married for 8 years today! It has been the most 8 incredible years of my life and I am not just saying that.  When I was 15 years old, I surrendered the area of dating and relationships to God.  I vowed not to date until I met my husband.  Ben came along 7 years later and he was worth every second of waiting.  During that time of waiting and hoping for the right man to come along, I made a list of things I desired in a husband.  Ben totally met and exceeded that list and those expectations.  He is in my phone as “Man Of My Dreams” he is that and more.  Here we stand 9 years together, 3 kids and a dog and I am more in love today then I was in 2007.  I say all that to say, first of all I am extremely thankful, and secondly to those who are still waiting for that special someone, I encourage you not to settle!

Now on to the not so gushy stuff! 8 Things that you may or may not know about Ben and I:

  • Ben does not like PDA.  I love PDA.
  • Ben’s love language is words of affirmation then physical touch.  Mine is the same but flipped! Physical touch first then words of affirmation.
  • We love to give.  We want to become millionaires so we can give more.
  • Ben was born in England.  I was born in Jamaica
  • Ben works Dignity Health placing patient’s in Mental Health facilites from emergency departments.  He also works as a Real Estate Agent.  Ben serves at our church Jesus Culture Sacramento as the head of security.
  • I work as a Nurse Case Manager at a local hospital.  My other passion besides blogging + fashion would be leading worship.  I have the honor of leading with the most incredible people at Jesus Culture Sacramento.
  • I got my tubes tied, so I THINK I am done having kids!? We may adopt one day in the future.
  • We would love to spend our 10 year anniversary in Bora Bora 🙂

I think that’s it for now!! Thank you as always for stopping by the blog! Much love to you all.

Ruthie xo

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  1. erica avery July 12, 2016 / 7:38 am

    I love that you sing on a worship team! So do I!! I love how close it makes me feel to God knowing that I am helping other people enter in!

  2. Samantha July 12, 2016 / 8:00 am

    Happy anniversary to such a beautiful couple! And I love that you want to become millionaires to give back. 🙂 When my husband and I talk about what we would do if we ever won the lottery, we always talk about what charities we would help, too.

  3. dashingdarlinblog July 12, 2016 / 8:00 am

    Awww, I’m obsessed with these pictures of y’all!! I LOVE them all!! I love how the love languages are similar for y’all. And, he doesn’t like PDA and you do.. That made me giggle. Happy Anniversary and many, many more to y’all!! Love YOUUU!!


  4. Maggie Leatherdale July 12, 2016 / 9:53 am

    Congrats you guys! May your love abound and all your dreams come true. Love reading your blog Ruthie! Xoxo

  5. April July 12, 2016 / 9:56 am

    Soooo loving these images and very happy for you and Ben! What a beautiful reminder of God’s love for us. Thank you for sharing. Praying for a continual prosperous journey for you and yours! <3 Happy Anniversary!

  6. Madeleine July 12, 2016 / 10:05 am

    What a wonderful post! Congratulations on 8 years of marriage. I love that you both serve together in your church. Blessings on you both!

  7. Jill July 12, 2016 / 10:26 am

    Happy Anniversary to 8 beautiful years of marriage. May God Bless you with many more beautiful years together. You both are such an inspiration on waiting for God to answer your prayers. Reading your story let me know that my time will come soon .

  8. mylifeinmascara July 12, 2016 / 11:00 am

    So beautiful!!! Thank you for sharing, wishing you many many more years of love, health and happiness! XOXO, Aida

  9. Lauren July 12, 2016 / 11:14 am

    Absolutely beautiful. What a wonderful post. I am so happy I found this blog!

  10. kage2015 July 12, 2016 / 12:57 pm

    I can see the love in your eyes. So wonderful to have waited and found the perfect partner. Congraulation and many more.

  11. Kristen July 12, 2016 / 1:10 pm

    You guys are such cuties!! Congratulations are 8 years together! It is so special when you meet “the one”! I am so happy you found each other!

    xoxo, Kristen

  12. Jennifer Frick July 12, 2016 / 1:13 pm

    Even though we’ve never met, it feels like I know you and the beautiful couple you are! My heart melts for you and your family everyday and I just have so much love for you guys!!! HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!! To another 8 plus wonderful years!!! xoxo

    Jen | MrsJenFrick.com

  13. worldwidestylista July 12, 2016 / 1:35 pm

    I love seeing and reading posts about your family and you two are so cute together! So glad to see you guys serving God in such incredible ways. Happy Anniversary and here’s to many more!

    xoxo, CiCi

  14. songbirdechoes July 12, 2016 / 1:54 pm

    Congratulations on 8 years!!! I loved your post and I can tell that you are the perfect companion for each other. I’m thinking how nice it would be to double date! <3 Loads of love to you and hope you have a fabulous anniversary today.

    Gunjan | http://www.songbirdechoes.com

  15. Annie July 12, 2016 / 2:18 pm

    I loved this post so much Ruthie! I remember seeing texts on your phone from Ben and thought it was so cute that you named him that in your phone. You guys are amazing role models and what true love is all about!! Sending so much love to you today!! xo Annie http://thelovelygirl.co

  16. Ashley July 12, 2016 / 3:13 pm

    This post is the cutest!!! These photos are stunning and I love the facts you shared. Spending your 10 year in Bora Bora would be amazing! Congrats on 8 years!

    xo Ashley

  17. blushandbubbly July 12, 2016 / 4:23 pm

    How lovely! I really enjoyed reading this <3 Happy Anniversary!

  18. Anna July 12, 2016 / 6:02 pm

    I am in love with this post (no pun intended) I love this tribute to your wonderful 8 years of marriage. Congratulations to you both! Cheers to may more! XO

    Anna || A Lily Love Affair

  19. Delesha Bingham July 12, 2016 / 9:37 pm

    This post is amazing and beyond sweet. It’s so refreshing to see a young couple who has put God in the center of their marriage. I love that and everything that you both stand for and it’s inspiring! Happy Anniversary!

  20. pickettfamily July 13, 2016 / 5:03 am

    Wow, 8 years! You look so happy and in love in your pictures.

  21. Meaghan July 13, 2016 / 6:55 am

    Such a cute post! These photos of you two are incredibly sweet, I hope some of them are being framed. I hope you had a wonderful time celebrating your anniversary and love for each other. Happy anniversary!

  22. Logan Can July 13, 2016 / 8:09 am

    Congratulations on 8 years! 8 is my lucky number, so we will celebrate that year BIG! 🙂 You two seem like a sweet couple and made for each other.

  23. mlaurie24 July 13, 2016 / 8:57 am

    Awww! I love this! I’ve been a single parent for too long and love seeing happy couples- it gives me hope! Congratulations! I love your beautiful pictures together.

  24. playingdressupallday July 13, 2016 / 9:13 am

    Ruthie, I know I haven’t met you in person, but can I just say, I love you!!! You truly are a beautiful soul! I love learning about love languages. It’s been awhile since I’ve read about them, so will need to pull the book out again. Happy anniversary to you and your husband. Truly an amazing couple!

  25. thestylelynnkind July 13, 2016 / 9:16 am

    These pictures are so beautiful and I loved getting to know the both of you more!!! Thank you so much for sharing Ruthie and Happy 8 years and many more to come for you love birds!! Xo!

  26. Amy July 13, 2016 / 9:44 am

    Praise God for loving husbands! Congratulations on your anniversary!

  27. darlingdearestblog July 13, 2016 / 9:53 am

    Ummm I want to be y’alls friend. Love that you had the strength to wait for him, love that God delivered. Love that y’all love the Lord and serve him. My husband’s love language is words of affirmation too, which ironically is the least of mine. These pictures- they radiate! Loved reading this post.

  28. Mariam (The Petite Bijou) July 13, 2016 / 10:31 am

    Congratulations, Ruth and Ben! You two are so cute together! And what an amazing couple!! You both do so much for others, I can tell you love to give and I hope your dream comes true!

    Bora Bora sounds nice!!!

    xo Mariam | http://www.thepetitebijou.com

  29. Kristen Kavan July 13, 2016 / 10:43 am

    Happy Anniversary!! I LOVED this post. So so sweet. And I hope in a few years to see a BORA BORA anniversary post!

  30. tiffaniatbretonbay July 13, 2016 / 11:35 am

    Oh My Gosh…I loved this post!! My husband and I just celebrated our 8 year anniversary in June so I saw the title and had to read!! I truly could not be happier with my husband…he is my BEST FRIEND and so much more!! We want to spend time together wish isn’t always easy with 3 babes!! My goodness we have so much in common!! Your relationship sounds adorable and I couldn’t be happier for you!! Happy Anny!!


  31. Nicole Leffew July 13, 2016 / 12:48 pm

    I am at work right now holding back tears! This was such a beautiful post Ruthie. Happy Anniversary! You are and your husband are goals. You are the ultimate role models for girls everywhere! I think everyone should also wait for the right one. I feel the same way about my husband as you do yours. You both sound like such a great team! 🙂 xo

  32. onceuponadollhouse July 13, 2016 / 5:55 pm

    What a beautiful couple. Congrats on your accomplishment. Love seeing relationships that grow together!

  33. Janna Doan July 13, 2016 / 11:02 pm

    ruthie–wowza babe. i can’t believe you have been married for 8 years.. 8!!!!! i LOVED THIS POST!! you can ben are one powercouple and i am so thrilled that you have each other (and a freaking adorable bunch of kids!), ben seems like an amazing man and father. from what i know and see it takes a lot to make a marriage work, so kudos to you babe. ps–bora bora!??! goshh.. that would be so amazing!! do it girl!! have a great week ahead, love ya xoxo,

    janna | http://www.jannadoan.com

  34. In The Lyons Den July 14, 2016 / 6:38 am

    So lovely to find someone you connect with, it doesn’t always happen. Special people come along in our lives and we have to embrace that… all the very best to an amazing partnership xx

  35. Toby July 14, 2016 / 8:03 am

    happy anniversary love!! beautiful couple xx toby

  36. annamonteiro16 July 14, 2016 / 11:25 am

    Love getting to know you more! Happy anniversary and btw your number 10 is also a dream of mine!

  37. Teresa November 10, 2016 / 1:44 pm

    You two are such a beautiful couple and your family is gorgeous. It nice how well opposites attract and how much more each can add to the life of the other. Happy Anniversary.

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